Did God Tell Adam to Rule Over Eve?

If God was going to tell man that he would rule over a woman, He would have said it in the Garden before the Fall, but He didn’t. In fact, He gave them BOTH, Adam and Eve Dominion alright, but NOT over one another. Let’s take a closer look:

In Genesis 1:26-31, it says, Then God said, “Let us make human beings in Our image, to be Like us. THEY (both Adam and the Woman) will Reign, (Rule, Have Dominion) over the fish of the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, All the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.”

27 So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.

28 Then God Blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign (Rule) over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”

God Spoke a Blessing over them, and said they would “Reign” over the fish, sea, birds, sky and animals, BUT NEVER OVER EACH OTHER.

29 Then God said, “Look! I have given you Every seed-bearing plant throughout the earth, and All the fruit trees for your food. 30 And I have given every green plan as food for all the wild animals, the birds in the sky and the small animals that scurry along the ground-everything that has life.” And that is what happened.

31 Then God looked over ALL He made, and He saw that it was Good!”

In Genesis 3:15, after Adam and the woman disobeyed God, God said to the serpent, Satan, (who lied and tricked them,) “And I will cause hostility between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring. He will strike your head, and you will strike his heel.”

16 Then He said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. and you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”

GOD NEVER TOLD ADAM TO RULE OVER EVE:

Pay very close attention to the above verse, because you will see that God NEVER instructed nor commanded Adam to rule over Eve. But because of sin, He said she would have pain in childbearing, and Because of sin, she would desire to control her husband, (her desire to control him was a result of her sin; sin nature, works of the flesh) and, Because of sin, her husband (sin nature; works of the flesh which is Jesus commandment to Love and lay your way down) would rule over her: Again, this was all a result of sin by listening to the serpent (Satan) and not God, and Not a direct command of God, also notice again, He spoke this to Eve (because of her sin) not Adam.

God NEVER told Adam Before nor After the Fall (sin( that he would rule over Eve.

NOT A DIRECT COMMAND OF GOD: Why? Because the scriptures say that after He made Adam and Eve and gave THEM (Equally, Together) Dominion over the Garden, He said, that it was “Good, Very Good.” Genesis 1:31.

GOD CREATED THE MARRIAGE UNIT, “GOOD, VERY GOOD”

Both Adam and Eve were created EQUAL. They were BOTH made in the image of God, and, they were BOTH given Dominion.

EVE WAS ONE WITH ADAM:

Eve was Not a separate being, she was One with Adam, “bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh” Genesis 2:23. Equal.

Galatians 3:28 tells us that we are also EQUAL in Christ Jesus: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for You are ALL ONE in Christ Jesus.” ALL ONE IS EQUAL.

Ladies, wives, it does not matter what others say, your friends, neighbors, or even those in your church, God did NOT create you inferior to your husbands, nor ANY man. In the body of Christ You are Equal and in your marriage You are Equal.

As I began to study the scriptures (and I have for many years) regarding this controversial subject, the Lord pointed out to me that “Before” the sin of Adam and Eve, there was No mention; No command, No instruction whatsoever to Adam that he would rule over Eve, and that it wasn’t until After their sin, that God said what would take place as a result of sin, and it became Evident right away, when Adam Blamed BOTH God and Eve for his sin, we see this in Genesis 3:12, “The man replied, IT WAS THE WOMAN YOU GAVE ME the fruit and I ATE IT.”

Instead of Admitting his sin to God, he began to act like Satan, who is the devil, and in the Greek is: Diabolos, which means Accuser (accusing falsely) and Slanderer. ADAM ACCUSED BOTH GOD AND EVE.

HONOR YOUR WIFE

In the “Same” Way, You husbands MUST Give Honor to Your Wives: When God created both Adam and Eve, He created them Equal, and in 1 Peter 3:7, it says, “In the Same way, you husbands MUST (this is a command) give HONOR to your wives. Treat Your Wife with Understanding as you Live Together. She may be more delicate than you are, But she is Your EQUAL PARTNER in God’s Gift of New Life. Treat her as you Should, so YOUR Prayers will Not be hindered.” (For Faith Works by Love, Galatians 5:6)

During a recent study I found that “In the SAME WAY” in the Greek is: HOMOIOS, (Hom-oy-oce) and it means: Likewise, in Like Manner, Similarly, EQUALLY.

And the word HONOR in the Greek means: Precious, Valuable. Even more recently while studying this verse I came upon a pastor by the name of Paul Chappel and this is what he said: ” I’ve read 1 Peter 3:7, hundreds, if not thousands of times…But while I was meditating on this verse several months ago, a phrase that I had not given much thought to hit me like a lead pipe: Giving Honour unto the wife…” That’s contrary to how men think. We think it is our wives that are to give us honor. But in that moment the Holy Spirit said to me, “You don’t honor Terrie as much as you could.” Don’t get me wrong, I love Terrie more than I love any person in the world. She means everything to me. I’m thankful beyond words for her. But I realized, I wasn’t purposefully giver her honor – at least as much as I could or should.

Pastor Paul continues: How can a husband honor his wife? As I meditated on this verse and prepared to share it with the men of our church in our couples retreat…I listed fifteen Good ways to start:

• Speak to her Kindly. One of the ways we demean others is by the way we speak. Whether it is in our actual choice of words or tone we use, we can bring deep hurt with our words. (Kind words are like Honey to the Soul, and Health to the body. Proverbs 16:24) Even in difficult moments, remember Ephesians 4:26: “Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.” It is possible to be angry at a problem, without being angry at a person…
• Dont Demean Your Wife. Show interest in her projects and interests that don’t excite men. I have learned that I can show honor to her by being interested in talking about or listen to what interests her, and I find that it Strengthens both my Appreciation of her, as well as our Relationship.
• You are to Love (Nourish) and Cherish your Wife, to Love her as your own body, (Ephesians 5:28,29)
• Speak Highly of her to your children. Teach Your children to Respect their Mom.
• Show physical affection to her in your children’s presence.
• Learn Her likes and dislikes: Whether it be a diet coke or a special place she likes to go to celebrate your anniversary; learn what she likes and avoid what she dislikes. You honor her by caring enough to learn and remember. Learn her joys and sorrows. What maker your wife happy?
• Learn what hurts her: Is there a painful situation from her past that she needs understanding in? Is there something in her past that she needs your forgiveness and for you to Not bring up? Honor her by giving her Joy and Comfort her.
• Remember her Special Days: Do things she enjoys like you did on special days before you were married. (Birthdays, Valentines Day, Anniversaries etc.)
• Tell her what she means to you: “Sweetheart, I just want you to know that no matter what happens, I’m always going to be grateful that you let me be your husband. I’m yours and I’m with you and for you.”

You cannot tell her enough how grateful you are for her. Tell her specific things she does that Encourage you, and if you think there are none, Open your eyes! You probably take for granted much of what SHE does.

Thank her for simple things, take time to Notice and thank her.

Do not treat her as a servant. A little tip here: Women do not like to be addressed as “Woman.“

Your wife is Not your servant, she is your queen. “As Heirs Together of the grace of God,”

Remember, look for ways to Serve her.

These are simple thoughts, and you could add more. But start somewhere!

I believe that if you invest honor into your wife, she’ll give it back. It may not be tomorrow. But the process will STRENGTHEN your marriage.” By Pastor Paul Chappel

“Love is patient, Love is Kind, it does not envy, it does not boast; it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs, Love does not delight in evil, but Rejoices with the Truth:
It Always protects,
Always Trusts,
Always Hopes,
Always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7