Keep Love Alive
Love is more than going to work and being a provider. Of course a husband who works to provide for his family loves them, but when it comes to a healthy relationship it is much more than that, a woman needs to feel an emotional connection to her husband. It is the way God created her. Of course she is a strong individual, but she also needs to feel safe in that relationship, she needs to be assured that he loves her. We see this in the fruit of the Spirit which says that Love is patient and Kind, we also see this in other verses of the Bible that says, Love builds up, and never tears down.
Kindness plays a major role in a marriage, and it’s what women respond to. She longs to hear, “I love you and appreciate you,” on a regular basis, if she stops receiving that from her husband, her adoration for him begins to wane. Women are very much like a Flower, as Flowers respond to sunlight, so when the sun comes out, the flower begins to open. No one can force that flower to open its petals, it comes naturally.
Therefore when a woman is loved and appreciated, she will respond to that love.
- Love is Patient
- Love is Kind
- Love builds up and never tears down
Husbands, your Kindness must be genuine, if you think she doesn’t notice, I assure you, you’re sadly mistaken. With nearly 39 years of experience as a married woman, I encourage you to look at her, and treat her the way you did when you first met, and when you do, and you do it from a pure heart, without expecting anything in return, she Will notice, and you will begin to see a change in her, she will begin to feel that Love and Will respond in ways you never exptected. And I guarantee, you will experience a remarkable change for the better in your relationship with her.
Being considerate is another form of Kindness. Take an interest in her goals and dreams. Find out what she likes to do. Both husbands and wives must be careful to not become absorbed in their work, and the day-to-day demands, it’s imperative to take breaks and go on dates! This has helped keep our marriage free from stress, and allows you to let your hair down so to speak, and have fun! This will also help to awaken the intimacy in your marriage as it was in the beginning.
Keep in mind there are evil forces involved, designed to destroy your marriage. Love and Forgiveness is the Only way to keep this evil out, the scriptures say, “Where there is strife there is confusion, and every evil work” and we are to Overcome this evil with Good. How? Love. Love covers a multitude of sins, wrongs. Both of you will have to make a choice to do good, as God gave us Freewill; freedom to choose, and with that understanding we can choose to Love; choose to forgive, and make sure to not let the sun go down upon your anger, “Be angry and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath (don’t go to bed angry), nor give place to the devil.” Be quick to forgive, for Jesus says in Mark chapter 11, “when you stand praying forgive, for if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive you.”
I will share more regarding Love in marriage and other relationships in my upcoming blogs. I pray this brings healing and restoration to your marriage.
